“That’s not what I meant!”
Everyone
has very different perceptions on things. I can think of countless times when
things were said either to me, or that I have said that have been perceived
incorrectly. A specific time that comes to mind is this one time with my best
friend. Her and I always stick together no matter what the circumstance and it
even occurs when it comes to backing one another up, which would make some
people defensive or feel intimidated. So during our junior year of high school there was this
girl who started to hang around us, and we did not mind. She was nice and we
were both friends with her. One day she told us that she feels like we don’t
want her to hang around us because we always talk about things and do things
that do not include her. We both immediately felt really bad about this because
we never wanted her to feel like we did not want her to hang around us. We were
just always so used to talking to each other, and planning things to do with each other, that we never thought that us
being so close could make someone else feel inferior. The way we did things
were just out of habit and since we were always together it made it difficult
to break that habit. Thankfully we both explained to her that we never wanted
her to feel like we didn’t want her to hang out with us and that we would try to
fix it and make things better. She understood and to this day we are all three
still friends and I feel that as our friend, when she pointed that out to us it
made us all three closer, and made us feel more open with each other.
I think the
concept of “That’s not what I meant” probably happens at least once a day for
people especially for those with jobs or lifestyles that include interacting
with a lot of different people. I mean
if you think about it, you could be at the grocery store, and lets say you make
a comment about the store being out of a product that you regularly buy, they
may take this in a manner in which they think you are being rude or “smart”
with them, when really you are just pointing out that an item that you regularly
buy at that grocery store has been out of stock for quite some time.